Nowadays you are almost looked upon at strange if you've turned 20 and still is a virgin. Also, many people thinks that you have to be a Christian if you've made a decision to wait until marriage. I didn't have a faith when I decided to wait, but thank God for angels! I got my faith back! Anyway: when you say that you want to wait until marriage, people go: "Oh, what church do you go to, huh?" I thought about it: Why do you necessarily have to go to a specific church if you want to have a very special gift for your future spouse?
I want to share with you the image I have in my mind, which reminds me of waiting until marriage:
Picture this: It is your wedding-night. The ceremony is over, the party is over, and you and your love is finally alone. You look at your love, and smile, saying: "Darling, I have a gift for you. I've saved it for all these years, because I wanted to give it to someone who had proven themselves worthy of it. And you, my love, is worthy of receiving my gift: the deepest part of myself; my virginity. I've waited until I met the one worthy of it, and you are worthy."
How would you feel if it was your loved one who looked you in the eyes and said those words? Wouldn't you feel amazingly proud? Not only has this person just a while ago said YES to live with you and love you forever and ever, the person has also saved and treasured the deepest and most valuable part of him/herself! I know what I would feel if my husband said those words to me: Proudness, and deep, true love.
I am not an expert in anything, but I know one who is The Expert: God our Father. If you trust in Him, He will help you to stay pure until you marry the one He has chosen for you. Very many people marry because of the fear of ending up like "lonely old spinsters". Don't worry! Put your trust in Him! Lay your future and your future spouse in His hands - He is God! He created the universe, the sky, the earth, the flowers - and He created True Love! True Love can be found and experienced, but only within the safe boundaries of marriage. Hands up those who know people who say: "I wanna wait by having sex 'till I'm totally sure!" Sadly too often, those words are forgotten too soon as you end up in the backseat of a car, under a bush, in a bed..... When do you know when you are completely sure? The answer is: On your wedding-day. When you've shared years with your love, and God says "Yes" to the relationship.... when you stand in front of the altar, looking down on your hand and see your spouse place a ring - the symbol of eternity - on your finger, you know then that you are ready. Don't give in to people pushing you, saying: "Everybody does it". Trust in God. And stay pure until marriage for Him, and for the one He has chosen to be your spouse.
I wish to share with you a simple but powerful technique that has helped me a lot when it came to remaining pure. It's called HALT. When the impure thoughts and feelings come, take a deep breath and think about why you get them. "Is it because I am Hungry? Angry? Lonely? Or Tired?" When you have discovered the real reasons for the impure thoughts, turn to God and ask Him for strength to turn away from the sin. He will help you.